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Our managers are afraid of saying the wrong thing. How far should they go?

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Last updated 10 November 2026

Our leaders aren't on boardFor Champions, Managers
In short

Managers notice changes, ask, listen and help the person reach support. They do not diagnose, counsel or ask for personal details. Keeping the conversation on work and what would help keeps it appropriate.

Managers often hold back because they worry about crossing personal boundaries, making things worse or creating expectations they cannot meet. In our experience, saying nothing usually leaves the employee more uncertain than an imperfect conversation would.

What to do

  1. Start with what you have seen at work For example, missed deadlines or being quieter in meetings than usual. This keeps the conversation fair and avoids guessing at causes.
  2. Ask an open question and listen For example: “How have things been going for you recently?” Let the person share as much or as little as they want.
  3. Talk about work and support, not diagnosis Ask what would help, such as moving a deadline, changing priorities for a few weeks or flexible hours. The employee does not need to tell you about a condition to get this support.
  4. Help them reach support Mention your EAP, a doctor or the national helplines, and offer to help them make contact.
  5. Agree next steps and follow up Agree who will do what, and check in again within a week or two.
  6. Know when to escalate If you are worried about someone’s safety, follow your escalation route straight away. If there is immediate danger to life, call 995.

Watch out for

  • Treat staff consistently. If one person gets support and another in a similar situation does not, the rest of the team will notice.
  • Keep what you are told private, and share it only with people who need to know (see How should we handle confidentiality, reporting and legal responsibility?).
  • A manager who tries to act as the person’s counsellor can burn out, and may delay the person getting the right help.

Good to know

We suggest giving managers a one-page guide covering what to say, what support is available and who to call when they are worried. People Leaders and Safety Leaders can agree it together.

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